Communication Theory: Cognitive Dissonance Theory
Communication Act: Post break up
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Status message
December 20, 2008.
I woke up at around 9am and immediately turned on the computer.
I waited patiently for the internet connection. Opened my YM and entered a chatroom.
And another.
Then another.
Nothing happened.
Everybody else were busy trying to find someone to flirt with.
So, realizing I wouldnt find a chatmate here, I signed out.
I didnt know that finding somebody to talk o would be this hard.
After taking a bath, I signed in again. I changed my status message to "extremely sad", because it was what I really felt.
Then, as I was about to log in into my friendster account, a window popped up.
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:35:40 PM): y are u so sad?
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:35:46 PM): hus dis?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:11 PM): rj...? i just saw ur account added to mine
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:22 PM): ah ok
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:22 PM): then i saw ur stat...
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:28 PM): thanks for asking
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:36 PM): wala lang,
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:41 PM): dont be sad its almost christmas...
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:02 PM): hehe. i know. thats the sad part, its almost christmas and yet i fell this way
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:08 PM): *feel
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:37:37 PM): is it because of a boy? hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:43 PM): hahahaha ya
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:11 PM): well well well no comment
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:17 PM): hahahaha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:29 PM): do u have a multiply account?
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:37 PM): yes
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:38 PM): y?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:49 PM): ill add u up
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:55 PM): okay
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:59 PM): fraineeta
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:39:17 PM): ohhh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:39:24 PM): unique masyado ah
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:39:28 PM): haha yup
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:17 PM): shhessh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:26 PM): wala nman laman
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:40:34 PM): private kasi haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:41 PM): ahhh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:56 PM): inadd na kita
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:41:00 PM): mine is rjcarrot
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:42:09 PM): done na
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:42:12 PM): yey
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:42:14 PM): thanks
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:42:17 PM): sure
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:43:26 PM): haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:43:41 PM): u look so young anu ka 14 yrs old? hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:43:49 PM): 16 pa ako ui
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:43:50 PM): haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:23 PM): heheh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:24 PM): omg
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:30 PM): haha y?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:41 PM): im 6 yrs older than u hahahha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:47 PM): super kuya mode hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:51 PM): hahahahaha
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:54 PM): :)
And our happy conversation ended there. It amazes me how a status message can open up a convesation and eventually build up into friendship.
Were now friends and keeps in touch regularly in MULTIPLY (a netwroking site).
I woke up at around 9am and immediately turned on the computer.
I waited patiently for the internet connection. Opened my YM and entered a chatroom.
And another.
Then another.
Nothing happened.
Everybody else were busy trying to find someone to flirt with.
So, realizing I wouldnt find a chatmate here, I signed out.
I didnt know that finding somebody to talk o would be this hard.
After taking a bath, I signed in again. I changed my status message to "extremely sad", because it was what I really felt.
Then, as I was about to log in into my friendster account, a window popped up.
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:35:40 PM): y are u so sad?
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:35:46 PM): hus dis?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:11 PM): rj...? i just saw ur account added to mine
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:22 PM): ah ok
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:22 PM): then i saw ur stat...
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:28 PM): thanks for asking
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:36:36 PM): wala lang,
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:36:41 PM): dont be sad its almost christmas...
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:02 PM): hehe. i know. thats the sad part, its almost christmas and yet i fell this way
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:08 PM): *feel
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:37:37 PM): is it because of a boy? hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:37:43 PM): hahahaha ya
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:11 PM): well well well no comment
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:17 PM): hahahaha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:29 PM): do u have a multiply account?
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:37 PM): yes
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:38 PM): y?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:38:49 PM): ill add u up
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:55 PM): okay
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:38:59 PM): fraineeta
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:39:17 PM): ohhh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:39:24 PM): unique masyado ah
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:39:28 PM): haha yup
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:17 PM): shhessh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:26 PM): wala nman laman
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:40:34 PM): private kasi haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:41 PM): ahhh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:40:56 PM): inadd na kita
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:41:00 PM): mine is rjcarrot
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:42:09 PM): done na
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:42:12 PM): yey
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:42:14 PM): thanks
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:42:17 PM): sure
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:43:26 PM): haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:43:41 PM): u look so young anu ka 14 yrs old? hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:43:49 PM): 16 pa ako ui
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:43:50 PM): haha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:23 PM): heheh
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:24 PM): omg
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:30 PM): haha y?
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:41 PM): im 6 yrs older than u hahahha
rjpc28 (12/8/2008 9:44:47 PM): super kuya mode hehe
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:51 PM): hahahahaha
jerain_807 (12/8/2008 9:44:54 PM): :)
And our happy conversation ended there. It amazes me how a status message can open up a convesation and eventually build up into friendship.
Were now friends and keeps in touch regularly in MULTIPLY (a netwroking site).
Summary of Social Information Processing Theory
The Social Information Processing Theory of Joseph Walther focuses on communication between two people through the cyberspace.
Walter mentioned that in order to build a relationship with somebody, you must first start with knowing bits and pieces about him or her. Automatically, when we want to try to do this, we thought of planning an appointment, may it be formal or not, to talk to that somebody face-to-face. But according to Walther, we can save the effort and hassle of doing this through computer-mediated-communication. Though he says this, Walther admits that non-verbal cues are filtered out of the interpersonal information that we send and receive through CMC. The non-verbal cues that we got used to in face to face communication like the facial expressions, tone of voice, body position and gestures are all absent here in CMC. But this doesn’t hinder anyone from building a relationship with anybody else.
Walther highlights two features of CMC:
1. Verbal cues- People can create impressions on a specific person based solely on the internet messages that they receive from that certain person.
2. Extended time- CMC users don’t get half or less of what face to face communication users do. They get the same information, same quality and quantity, but rather in longer period of time.
Walther is convinced that the length of time that CMC users have to send their messages is the key factor that determines whether their messages can achieve the level of intimacy that others develop face-to-face. CMC users can make up for this by sending messages more often.
In CMC also,
- You get to only disclose the part of you, which you wish to present. (sender)
- You start by joining a specific online group and try to find someone who has the same interests as with you. You observe and then that’s when you figure out what they really are. (receiver)
- You get to manage your own time because you choose the time on when to reply to a specific message. (channel)
Having been read the summary above, using CMC or face-to-face communication is up to you now.
Walter mentioned that in order to build a relationship with somebody, you must first start with knowing bits and pieces about him or her. Automatically, when we want to try to do this, we thought of planning an appointment, may it be formal or not, to talk to that somebody face-to-face. But according to Walther, we can save the effort and hassle of doing this through computer-mediated-communication. Though he says this, Walther admits that non-verbal cues are filtered out of the interpersonal information that we send and receive through CMC. The non-verbal cues that we got used to in face to face communication like the facial expressions, tone of voice, body position and gestures are all absent here in CMC. But this doesn’t hinder anyone from building a relationship with anybody else.
Walther highlights two features of CMC:
1. Verbal cues- People can create impressions on a specific person based solely on the internet messages that they receive from that certain person.
2. Extended time- CMC users don’t get half or less of what face to face communication users do. They get the same information, same quality and quantity, but rather in longer period of time.
Walther is convinced that the length of time that CMC users have to send their messages is the key factor that determines whether their messages can achieve the level of intimacy that others develop face-to-face. CMC users can make up for this by sending messages more often.
In CMC also,
- You get to only disclose the part of you, which you wish to present. (sender)
- You start by joining a specific online group and try to find someone who has the same interests as with you. You observe and then that’s when you figure out what they really are. (receiver)
- You get to manage your own time because you choose the time on when to reply to a specific message. (channel)
Having been read the summary above, using CMC or face-to-face communication is up to you now.
Summary of Symbolic Interactionism Theory
Symbolic Interactionism is developed by George Herbert Mead, who was fascinated by the human ability to use symbols.
In his opinion, individuals can acquire identity only by interacting with others. He proved this by citing some examples. For example, when we were young, we were ignorant to the things that were happening around us. We didnt know what to call a simple object like a chair before, right? But thanks to our parents or helpers perhaps, they did not forget to introduce to us the chair.
You see Mead’s point? You wouldnt be the kind of person you are right now, if it werent for the people around you. They contributed to the way you think and to the way you give meaning to a certain symbol.
In the process of acquiring language, individuals learn the common meanings of their culture. This is what it means to acquire a mind.
Self doesnt exist at birth according to Mead. This too is developed through interaction with others. When we were young, the views of us that others communicate are the basis of our initial meaning for ourselves, our understanding of who we are. The looking glass self explains that we learn to see ouresleves in the mirror of other’s eyes.
According also to Mead, humans have the ability to be both the subjects and the objects of their experience. I, is the acting subject, the impulsive. While the Me, is the one that reflects on what I did. The Me evaluates.
Through this theory, I understand now why a certain person acts like this or that towards another person. Its because your actions depend on the meanings you give to those things. So if you have created a negative meaning towards something, automatically you react negatively.
In his opinion, individuals can acquire identity only by interacting with others. He proved this by citing some examples. For example, when we were young, we were ignorant to the things that were happening around us. We didnt know what to call a simple object like a chair before, right? But thanks to our parents or helpers perhaps, they did not forget to introduce to us the chair.
You see Mead’s point? You wouldnt be the kind of person you are right now, if it werent for the people around you. They contributed to the way you think and to the way you give meaning to a certain symbol.
In the process of acquiring language, individuals learn the common meanings of their culture. This is what it means to acquire a mind.
Self doesnt exist at birth according to Mead. This too is developed through interaction with others. When we were young, the views of us that others communicate are the basis of our initial meaning for ourselves, our understanding of who we are. The looking glass self explains that we learn to see ouresleves in the mirror of other’s eyes.
According also to Mead, humans have the ability to be both the subjects and the objects of their experience. I, is the acting subject, the impulsive. While the Me, is the one that reflects on what I did. The Me evaluates.
Through this theory, I understand now why a certain person acts like this or that towards another person. Its because your actions depend on the meanings you give to those things. So if you have created a negative meaning towards something, automatically you react negatively.
Summary of Social Penetration Theory
Social Penetration Theory was developed by Irwin Altman and Dallas Taylor.
In order for the people to understand more about the theory, they formulated a model. The well known onion model. It represents the multiple layers of a person.
For a person to penetrate in you, they need to pass first the Superficial layers. Here lies your biographical data and the likes and dislikes in clothes, music and so on.
Next, the Middle layers, here lies your political views, social attitudes and so on of a person.
Then, the Inner layers, where lies your spiritual values, deep fears, hopes, goals, fantasies, secrets and so on.
And lastly, the Core. Here lies your most basic self.
As for me, only a few people get to penetrate to the Core. Basically, these are the people I trust and who trusts me in return. These are the significant people in my life. The common denominator in them? They’ve known me for a considerably long time already.
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Monday, December 8, 2008
Expectancy Violations Theory
Movie: How to lose a guy in 10 days
“How to lose a guy in 10 days”, is a story about a magazine writer, Andie Anderson, who wants to write about politics in a fashion magazine, but her editor wont let her until she’s able to sell her “how to” column, and has already gathered loyal readers. Andie reluctantly reconsiders and suddenly hits on the idea of "How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days" as a topic. Then, she met Benjamin Barry, a popular and rising advertising executive, who in order to have a handsome pay off, has to make a girl fall in love with him in just 10 days. They caught each other’s eyes at a bar, thus having a subject for their respective goals.
According to James Burgoon, a communication scholar at the University of Arizona, personal space is the “invisible, variable volume of space surrounding an individual that defines that individual’s preferred distance from others.” The distance depends on our cultural norms and individual preferences. When we think that people dont respect this, we feel violated.
In the first scene, where they had just met at the bar, it was the guy who approached the girl. But it was the girl who first gave her name. The distance between them, if we based on Burgoon’s four interpersonal distances, it belonged to the intimate distance category. Its odd how two people, strange to each other, can be so comfortable in just that moment. The girl, didnt feel abused or violated with the distance between them, even the guy. They were as if, had known each other for such a long time already. I find it odd because our culture is different from theirs. Well, this continued for the following days.
In the next days however, where they have been so close that their attitudes were already in the air, annoyance was already present. Andie's efforts to make Benny reject her in the allocated time made him lengthen his patience for Andie. The intimate distance that they have enjoyed in their first few days, have been hell for the both of them later on. They felt violated everytime the other one gets closer to the other. Maybe because the expectations were not anymore the same with those of the first few days they had been together.
But even with all the efforts of Andie to get rid of Benny, Benny tried his best to keep her. Thats the funny yet sweet part of the story.
“How to lose a guy in 10 days”, is a story about a magazine writer, Andie Anderson, who wants to write about politics in a fashion magazine, but her editor wont let her until she’s able to sell her “how to” column, and has already gathered loyal readers. Andie reluctantly reconsiders and suddenly hits on the idea of "How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days" as a topic. Then, she met Benjamin Barry, a popular and rising advertising executive, who in order to have a handsome pay off, has to make a girl fall in love with him in just 10 days. They caught each other’s eyes at a bar, thus having a subject for their respective goals.
According to James Burgoon, a communication scholar at the University of Arizona, personal space is the “invisible, variable volume of space surrounding an individual that defines that individual’s preferred distance from others.” The distance depends on our cultural norms and individual preferences. When we think that people dont respect this, we feel violated.
In the first scene, where they had just met at the bar, it was the guy who approached the girl. But it was the girl who first gave her name. The distance between them, if we based on Burgoon’s four interpersonal distances, it belonged to the intimate distance category. Its odd how two people, strange to each other, can be so comfortable in just that moment. The girl, didnt feel abused or violated with the distance between them, even the guy. They were as if, had known each other for such a long time already. I find it odd because our culture is different from theirs. Well, this continued for the following days.
In the next days however, where they have been so close that their attitudes were already in the air, annoyance was already present. Andie's efforts to make Benny reject her in the allocated time made him lengthen his patience for Andie. The intimate distance that they have enjoyed in their first few days, have been hell for the both of them later on. They felt violated everytime the other one gets closer to the other. Maybe because the expectations were not anymore the same with those of the first few days they had been together.
But even with all the efforts of Andie to get rid of Benny, Benny tried his best to keep her. Thats the funny yet sweet part of the story.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Is Parsimony always a good thing?
Parsimony, as explained by the Wikipedia, is a 'less is better' concept of frugality, economy, stinginess or caution in arriving at a hypothesis or course of action.
It is explaining things in a much easier and concised way.
I have always been a sucker for shortcuts, those kinds of shortcuts that do not compromise the quality of work. It saves my time from reading lengthy explanations, so long and so complex that sometimes lead me to confusion which leaves me a different understanding of what the main idea is all about.
Parsimony not only saves my time but also suggests me a solid, concised and uniform explanation. Not is it only beneficial to my part as the reader, but also to the writer as well. She wont be wasting her time explaining something using flowery words, to satisfy the reader. She can use plain sets of words to explain a particular theory. The time saved on it, can still be used to perform other things, and to explain other theories as well.
But all good things have a downside. For example, a person who knows little of a particular subject, when he would ask someone to explain it for him, due to Parsimony, simple explanation is given to him. Yes, it wont create confusion but it doesnt give sufficient information either.
So yes I believe that Parsimony is a good thing, but NOT at all times.
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It is explaining things in a much easier and concised way.
I have always been a sucker for shortcuts, those kinds of shortcuts that do not compromise the quality of work. It saves my time from reading lengthy explanations, so long and so complex that sometimes lead me to confusion which leaves me a different understanding of what the main idea is all about.
Parsimony not only saves my time but also suggests me a solid, concised and uniform explanation. Not is it only beneficial to my part as the reader, but also to the writer as well. She wont be wasting her time explaining something using flowery words, to satisfy the reader. She can use plain sets of words to explain a particular theory. The time saved on it, can still be used to perform other things, and to explain other theories as well.
But all good things have a downside. For example, a person who knows little of a particular subject, when he would ask someone to explain it for him, due to Parsimony, simple explanation is given to him. Yes, it wont create confusion but it doesnt give sufficient information either.
So yes I believe that Parsimony is a good thing, but NOT at all times.
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